{"id":353851,"date":"2024-10-04T08:15:00","date_gmt":"2024-10-04T12:15:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/?p=353851"},"modified":"2024-09-26T09:52:33","modified_gmt":"2024-09-26T13:52:33","slug":"tame-your-temper","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/2024\/10\/04\/tame-your-temper\/","title":{"rendered":"Tame your Temper"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Sophomore Illian Hajiani flexes his impressive physique in a moment of anger. Photo: Hayes Pollard
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Most empires collapse from within. Most people’s struggles are self-inflicted. Stop reacting, who has ever lost their temper and then been glad after the fact? Anger never improves or fixes the issue at hand. Sure a basketball coach may get angry to rile up their players, but if they don\u2019t keep their temper in check they\u2019ll just be racking up technical fouls. Control your temper! It\u2019s not that some people won\u2019t feel anger, it\u2019s there, you simply must choose to not act on it! <\/p>\n\n\n\n

Focus on your actions. What do you do when someone else makes a mistake or wrongs you? It\u2019s not up to us whether or not this happens, but what is up to us is the decision to not allow others to implicate us in their ugliness. People are often rude, arrogant and shameless but that doesn\u2019t make it ok for you to act that way as well. Rise above, don\u2019t stoop to their level, be the bigger person. Focus on your own actions because that is what you can control. Be strict with yourself and tolerant with others<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Buddhists emphasize the importance of letting the little annoyances of life \u201cdrift by like clouds.\u201d You don\u2019t have to let this bother you. We always have the option to have no opinion on something, to choose to say, \u201cIt doesn\u2019t bother me.\u201d You don\u2019t have to get worked up. You don\u2019t even have to respond. You can just let it go.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

The Stoics would tell us \u201cthe best revenge is to not be like that.\u201d When we think about it, yes, people can hurt us, however, when we really look at those people, who they are, and why they do what they do, it doesn\u2019t actually feel like they\u2019re getting away with anything. They\u2019re their own worst enemy. Give up on revenge, give up on \u201cgetting even.\u201d You\u2019ve already won by not being like that person.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

People may be obstacles, but those obstacles are how we grow. Why? Because in that obstacle there\u2019s an opportunity to be just in the face of injustice, to be temperate in the face of intemperance that\u2019s being rewarded, to be courageous in a sea of cowards. People are frustrating, people are an obstacle, but like all obstacles they\u2019re also the way. People are a challenge we can rise to meet. Don\u2019t resent people, use them to become better.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Most empires collapse from within. Most people’s struggles are self-inflicted. Stop reacting, who has ever lost their temper and then been glad after the fact? Anger never improves or fixes the issue at hand. Sure a basketball coach may get angry to rile up their players, but if they don\u2019tContinue Reading<\/a><\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":494,"featured_media":353852,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[8,5],"tags":[],"class_list":["entry","author-hayes-pollard26paceacademy-org","post-353851","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-whatsyourtake","category-pacenews"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/files\/2024\/08\/ANGER-RGB.jpg?fit=612%2C1098&ssl=1","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p1TYqQ-1u3h","jetpack-related-posts":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/353851","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/494"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=353851"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/353851\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":354059,"href":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/353851\/revisions\/354059"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/353852"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=353851"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=353851"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/knightlife.paceacademy.org\/knightlynews\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=353851"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}